香港生活指數高企,很多年青家庭的父母為養育子女,均要外出工作。父母工作時間長,親子及夫婦間的相處時間減少;加上生活環境擠迫,一家人容易產生磨擦,影響感情,深遠影響下一代。阿芳(化名) 正身處於這困局中,險釀成一宗兒童疏忽照顧慘案。
阿芳,33歲,與丈夫分開接近兩年,獨力撫養一名5歲兒子 (家熹),居住於深水埗一劏房單位。「因為屋企地方淺窄,得80尺,以前成日因為呢樣嘢同老公嘈,生咗家熹後嘈得仲勁,於是佢就成日唔返屋企,慢慢發現原來佢出面有第二個女人,我決定離婚,之後佢無再理我同家熹。
我要交租又要養小朋友,呢個時期嘅小朋友要用好多錢,經濟壓力好大。我日頭返清潔工,有時夜晚返便利店做兼職,希望搵多啲錢。我返咗工嘅時間,就將家熹交畀家姐湊。但有家姐嘅鄰居同我講過,見過家熹一個人坐喺屋入面喊無人理佢,我有問過家姐咩事,佢話:「我都係落一落街啫,成日咁樣對住佢,佢唔悶我都厭啦。」雖然我知佢對我個囝唔好,但無辦法,我要搵食。
家熹由BB到宜家成日都喊,有時因小事會好激動發脾氣,但又講唔到發生咩事。佢直到3歲半先識叫「媽媽」,初時好驚唔知佢係咪有咩怪病,返學又畀同學仔笑,後來學校老師叫我帶家熹去做評估,先至發現原來佢係發展遲緩嘅小朋友,兼有抑鬱傾向。
我知佢有問題,但做情緒治療嘅醫藥費好貴,唔敢帶佢去睇。有時放工返到屋企好攰,返到屋企想唞吓,但家熹成日喊或者郁啲就發脾氣。試過有次佢突然好嬲,拎啲玩具周圍掉。我好忟,唔知點做,為咗令佢收聲唯有打佢,但打完佢我又好心痛,內心好矛盾同好辛苦,身心都好攰,有時會後悔生咗佢,自己唔識教,好似累咗佢咁。
直到有一日,我真係情緒爆煲,送家熹返到學校後,突然喺老師面前大聲嚎哭,於是同老師講我生活嘅難處同㥬惶,老師介紹咗屋企附近嘅家庭服務中心畀我,入面嘅社工王姑娘好好,逐步幫我拆解難題。例如幫我搵日間課餘託管服務中心,將家熹交畀中心姑娘照顧,中心有膳食安排又有小朋友同佢玩,佢開朗咗好多,託管時間又可以配合到我嘅返工時間,我好放心;王姑娘仲幫我搵有政府資助嘅機構服務,幫家熹改善發展遲緩問題。
王姑娘亦都幫我搵咗啲家庭生活教育同心理輔導,令我紓緩緊張壓力,同時學識點樣同小朋友相處。逐漸地我學識點樣教家熹,唔再打佢鬧佢,用適合同家熹溝通嘅方法教佢。宜家屋企雖然都係得80尺,但歡笑聲多咗好多,好彩有家庭服務中心同王姑娘幫忙,如果唔係去做傻事都唔出奇。好多謝家庭服務中心同王姑娘!」
以上事主阿芳,失婚後獨力面對沉重的經濟及照顧小朋友壓力,一點也不容易。若經濟和照顧能力任何一方失衡,也會導致悲劇發生。幸得家庭服務中心的社工協助,令阿芳可以取得生活平衡,走出困局,令兩母子可以展現歡顏,投入新生活。
IFSCs are currently organized into three main units - the Family Resource Unit, the Family Support Unit and the Family Counseling Unit - and are located in 65 IFSCs throughout the territory as well as two IFSCs in Tung Chung, which provide a continuum of preventive, supportive and remedial family services.
人與人之間產生衝突很平常,更何況是一起生活的家人,所以如發現有家庭問題,別因為尷尬或「家醜不出外傳」的傳統觀念而不救助。你踏出的一小步,正援解一家人的感情和關係。家庭服務中心就家庭指導服務方面提供諮詢服務、家庭生活教育、親 子活動、輔導服務和轉介服務等。社工會提供家庭關係和子女照顧安排方面的意見和協助。
求助者可以全日24小時致電綜合家庭服務中心,中心將有職員接聽求助個案,即使是深宵達旦或線路繁忙,熱線也會轉駁至東華三院的家庭服務或相關部門,讓求助者不會感到救助無門。
In addition, as IFSCs are approved departments of the Social Welfare Department or designated partner organizations, they are equipped with a complaint mechanism and a monitoring system. Therefore, as long as help-seekers take the first step to seek help, IFSCs' staff will not put up any excuses, and they welcome people in need to seek help, so as to enable them to co-ordinate more family relationships and build a harmonious society together.
If you find a friend in need of assistance, or if you are in need of assistance, please do not hesitate to approach the IFSC for assistance or feel free to leave a message to us for enquiries.
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